So, I have an exceptionally good memory. When it comes to certain things. Like conversations.
Mainly, this is because I actually listen. Something which few people tend to do. As I’m sure you’ve heard somewhere before, most people don’t listen properly because they’re just waiting for their turn to speak. Well, I don’t do this because I’m really bad at talking.
I can’t do small talk for shit.
Mostly it’s because I get anxious around new people but even with those I know, I prefer to shut the hell up because I’m either scared to say something that makes me sound like a moron or, I don’t really want to let them in.
So I listen and observe.
And it doesn’t go down so well.
It makes some people really uncomfortable.
…
I’m not sure if this is because they’re aware that they have to pay extra attention to what it is they’re saying rather than rambling for once…or if it’s because I’m studying their body language along with their words and picking up on the tiny tells that give away more than what they’re saying.
It kind of sucks making people uncomfortable though.
And it really sucks when you don’t actually know what to say in the most trivial conversations.
I’ve been told to try and just ask questions…but I tend to ask the wrong ones or have them come out of my mouth with attitude or with the impression that I don’t really care…which I probably don’t because that’s another problem when it comes to my social skills. I can’t fake it.
If I’m not interested in a conversation, chances are you’ll know it.
And why? Because, while I do waste my time doing all sorts of meaningless crap – like blogging and playing video games – those at least interest me. I just can’t bring myself to waste too much time on anything that bores me or I find to be meaningless.
Yeah, I’m not a popular person.
And that’s my little Sunday secret that you all didn’t know. Someone tell me one of theirs. Now. Because I said so.
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This is exactly how I am, too. You put it into the perfect words.
I have no sunday secret, though. Sorry.
I am the same, as I think I said before.
People always used to ask if I was ok cos I was so quiet. But I was just listening. Weird.
Now I try the question thing. But I cannot think of many. So then I get nervous and start talking about myself, which is what I am doing right now oops.
No.
I don’t think that I’m a great listener, but I definitely don’t have time for small talk. The whole thing is meaningless. Give me something worthwhile to talk about.
Sunday Secret? I judge people constantly. If you have failed to impress at the beginning I hold on to it, and its pretty difficult for people to get a second hearing. Its not a good characteristic, but nevertheless its what I do.
fly – It’s alright, at least we know we’re not the only ones
Po – Hehe, talk about yourself all you want. I sometimes do it too
kyknoord – That’s the shortest comment I’ve ever seen from you. It’s…disturbing.
dash – I tend to do that too. But…I think it can be a great characteristic sometimes. Every trait has their good and their bad. And…it’s fun. Hate to say it, but it is.
Interesting,
My watchful eye will now be on you..
I don’t have too many secrets but I will tell you one so that the focus can be shifted from your crazy listening skills ..
I can’t fall asleep if i don’t have a sheet or a blankie on the bed.. so in the summer I have a light sheet over me.. and in the winter a blankie or duvet..
so there you go.. I am a blankie girl…
Your secret is that you’re “a bit rude”?
Oh – ok, then. Well, mine is that I mainly breathe oxygen.
What’s that bear doing squatting near those trees?
B – Do you have issues when your feet are out of the blankie?
6k – It’s not being rude. It’s being my social ineptness.
uhm…. are you analysing me?? I am feeling all nekkid and vulnerable now.. can I lie down?
Are those choccies I see??
hmmmmm… yes it all started when my brothers…blahblahblahblah…
P.S.
… are you still listening??
B – I wasn’t analysing
I’m disgusted that you’d think I would do something so dirty 
And yeah I’m totally listening still.
It’s people like 6k I might put on mute because he’s like totally rude
hhmmm… if its not sunday do i still have to tell yuou a secret?
Yes! Although it’s Sunday now…hmmm