At what point do you know that what you’re doing is right?
Every few months I have a bit of a mini breakdown about my relationship – wondering if I still want to be here. After all, it’s been five years, a lot has changed since the beginning…there’s more comfortableness and less of a reason to try so hard which always makes me sad.
And then you have to take into account the type of person he is…ruled very much by his head with his heart taking a very distant second place.
And then you have to take into account the type of person I am…oversensative, flighty…
If I had to leave…I might find that passion again, but how long would it last before I got bored? Before I would sit, thinking for hours, making it worse for myself?
And then there’s the worst possible question of all…am I making myself unhappy rather than hurting someone else?
And then the time passes and everything is fine again.
I need help.
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Comfortableness is good. But it doesn’t mean you have to stop trying. Or no-one would ever stay together, would they?
Loads of people would love to be in your situation – together and settled.
No. Don’t give up. (Although it does save on Xmas presents).
I know. I’m just having a moment – these happen once in a while
I just never share them. Different eh?
But thanks dear, I was counting on your perspective and you delivered.
Help is always available at 500 bucks an hour.
I think if you are feeling too comfortable.. mix things up.. plan a surprise outing (clothes are optional
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Do something different for yourself like hair, clothes, go sleep on his side of the bed.. you know what I mean.. Or shave his eyebrows..
I think you are missing the excited of the beginnings.. but are forgetting all the crap that went with it.. Comfortable is a good sign.. but comfortable is also dangerous.. so go out and buy him sexy lingerie and get him to do some poledancing for you.. will be good for his fitness levels at the very least!
P.S. please upload pics for the rest of us if you don’t mind
Ooh I was at that exact same point 5 years into my relationship.
I thought that it might be I was being held back, that I was making sacrifices, that I was getting bored. Then guess what, he broke up with ME!
Then I realised that I loved him more than anything, couldn’t live without him, wanted to spend the rest of my life with him and that I was not bored.
Luckily he gave us a second chance and we are still together happier than ever.
Obviously it depends on the relationship, maybe imagine him breaking up with you and how it makes you feel will tell you if you should still be together.
kyknoord – you’re just too cheap. Whore
B – Mixing things up is coming…once I can tear myself away from my fantasy love. I can’t do anything but read at the moment. Can you say, addict?
Po – I do use that to keep it together and it generally makes the feelings go away but…*sigh* when those days hit…they hit with full force.
You guys all rock.