Yesterday I had an acquaintence bitching to me about her mother stuffing up her plans and coming back from holiday a day later than she was going to originally.
These plans consisted of her going to a beauty spa for the day and having her mother look after her child.
It was at this point that I said “that’s what abortion is for”.
Yeah, it sounds heartless there on it’s own. Let me explain.
This girl is in her mid twenties and can support herself and her child. She chooses to live with her mother and work half days so that she can spend the other half of the day shopping (I’m not kidding). All the while, her mother is taking the kid to and from pre school and babysitting. All day. Every day.
Surely mom has had her fair share of this? She has three kids (I think) in their twenties so she’s had her days of running after toddlers so really, shouldn’t said girl take some responsibility and look after her own child?
Then there’s another girl I know, her child lives with her parents whilst her and her husband live a nice little child free life. To squash the guilt she occasionally visits her child. I should throw in here that said girl is a housewife so there’s no job or anything keeping her from being a real part of her child’s life.
Now I have this weird notion, how about people like this realise that their days of doing what they want twenty four hours a day have been put on the back burner because they now have children they should be raising? I mean, it’s a different story when you can’t actually support yourselves without a little bit of help sometimes, that’s fine, but to dump your children on your parents so you can go and play with toys every day? Pfft.
And that’s why I say, that is what abortion is for.
Oh which reminds me, I recently saw someone say somewhere that nine out of ten South Africans are against abortion. To the person that said this, surely you should realise how skewed surveys are? People who do surveys want a certain answer, so they go to a place they are guarenteed to get that answer, especially when they push the person answering the silly survey in a certain direction. If I had to do that survey, based on where I would go, I could get the exact opposite result.
Anyway, it’s nearly mothers day so for all of you mothers out there that have taken responsibility for your actions and the results, i.e. a child, you deserve to get spoilt because it’s not an easy job. I bring this up on a Tuesday to remind any of you that have forgotten so you can start dropping hints to your husbands, boyfriends, girlfriends etc.
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Oh, I don’t know. Maybe your acquaintence has one of those mothers who was continually at her with the whole “so when are you going to give me some grandchildren” thing and did just that.
Theoretically that would work, but it falls flat when you consider her sister has kids that are older than her son.
Eh, I can’t understand it.
The saddest part about it all is not the granny losing her retirement, but the poor kid!
This is why kids are so messed up today. Teenage pregnancies, school violence, drug abuse, the list goes on. It all boils down to pathetic parenting!
I see a business opportunity here… Anyone interested in c0-writing a How-To guide and selling it at maternity wards?
That’s so true! The daughter of the second girl I mentioned just turned four and she’s already displaying signs of issuuuueeeeesssss.
I like the idea of the book though, speak to my agent
i don’t understand why people who are perfectly capable of looking after their own children- financially and such- don’t do so.
then again, maybe the kidlets are better off without them then…?!?